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The future
is something
you shape
together.

Money, care work and time shape your everyday life - even when you never explicitly talk about them.

Clear agreements create room for what matters.
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The Fair Planen Conversation Starter

A short PDF guide for couples who do not want to leave money, care work, time and their shared future to chance.

With 10 central questions, you open up the most important topic areas: shared expenses, personal leeway, unpaid work, security, parental leave, housing, compensation and next decisions.

10 questions

for a calm, structured start.

2 perspectives

so it becomes visible what matters to each of you.

3 next steps

to record what you want to clarify further.

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PDF · Entry point · Topic overview · Couple conversation

02

Shared planning begins in everyday life.

Many decisions happen almost incidentally: Who pays what? Who plans appointments? Who carries the organising? Who has free time when? Who keeps saving? Fair Planen helps you look at these everyday questions deliberately - as part of shaping your shared life.

A MoneyWhich expenses do you already share - and according to which principle?
B Care workWhich tasks are visible, and which ones run more in the background?
C TimeHow are working time, free time and mental capacity distributed?
D FutureWhich decisions are coming up or could become important later?
E Next stepWhich question do you want to clarify first as a couple?
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Start small, go deeper.

The conversation starter opens the topic. The workbook takes you further - from first questions to models, tables and agreements.

Conversation Starter

For the first overview

  • 10 questions
  • short reflection
  • collect first topics
  • note next steps
  • downloadable PDF
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Workbook

For deeper planning

  • conversation pages
  • tables for money, care work and compensation
  • sample models for splitting costs and accounts
  • agreement pages
  • review routines
  • Founding Version · 12 €
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What you work with in the workbook

Cost model

50/50, proportional to income, shared budget or hybrid model.

Care check

Visible and invisible tasks in everyday life together.

Parental leave compensation

Loss of income, part-time work, career pauses and long-term security.

Account model

Separate, shared or combined - depending on what fits your reality.

Future review

A rhythm for adapting agreements to new phases of life.

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For couples in every phase of shared planning.

You do not have to be at a specific point. Fair Planen fits if you are moving in together, have lived together for years, are thinking about children, planning parental leave or want to reorganise your shared model.

Before moving in together

Set up costs, accounts, everyday life and routines deliberately.

If you already live together

Look at existing patterns and adjust them.

Around children and parental leave

Plan income, care work, part-time work and security together.

Without a standard model

Develop a solution that fits your actual life.

Married

Add agreements that go beyond legal defaults and fit your everyday life.

Unmarried

Clarify finances, care work and security deliberately, even without a shared legal framework.

Couple planning together on a sofa with a tablet

Not everything
that is split equally
is carried equally.

A fair model considers not only money, but also time, responsibility, care work and long-term room to manoeuvre.

05

The Fair Planen Workbook

The deeper working tool for couples who want to turn first questions into concrete models, tables and agreements.

A digital PDF workbook for shared decisions around money, care work, parental leave, housing and responsibility.

  • conversation pages for money, care work, parental leave and housing
  • tables for expenses, savings, income and compensation
  • reflection questions for wishes, values and responsibility
  • agreement pages for models, routines and next steps
  • sample models for 50/50, proportional splitting and compensation
  • developed for couples in the DACH context
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FAQ

1. What is the difference between the Conversation Starter and the Workbook? +

The Conversation Starter is a short entry point with 10 questions. The Workbook is the more detailed working tool with tables, models, reflection pages and agreement pages.

2. Do we have to start with the Workbook? +

No. You can begin with the Conversation Starter and decide later whether you want to go deeper.

3. Is Fair Planen only for married couples? +

No. Fair Planen is for couples who want to shape their shared future - married or unmarried.

4. Does Fair Planen define what is fair? +

No. Fair Planen does not take sides and does not assume a finished model. The Conversation Starter and Workbook help you make different areas of your shared life visible - so you understand each other better, have a shared basis for the conversation and also recognize topics you may not have considered before. Which solution feels fair for you is something you develop yourselves.

5. Is Fair Planen also available in English? +

Yes. Fair Planen is also available in English because many couples live and plan internationally. The examples and notes are mainly oriented toward the DACH region - Germany, Austria and Switzerland. At the same time, the questions are especially helpful for international couples because they make cultural differences in expectations around money, care work, family, security and future planning visible.

6. Is this legal advice? +

No. Fair Planen does not replace legal, tax or financial advice. It helps you prepare questions and decisions more clearly.

7. What do we have after working through the Workbook? +

You have developed a first shared working model: with concrete agreements on costs, accounts, care work, parental leave, housing, compensation and upcoming review dates.